Livin' on Love Under The Hot Desert Sun: Princess Beast

Yes, this is what we call Willow now. She has been very trying lately to the point I feel like a bad person/mom. Last Friday I gave my 2 week notice to Tim on my stay at home mom job. I just had it that day. To top it off I don't have my mom close by to "drop" her off for awhile.
Going to bed for nap or bedtime is something I seriously dread. She drags it out for over an hour. She keeps getting up and coming to see what we are doing. I have tried locking the door but she just farts around in there for hours. She will try on every shirt she has, ripped up board books, taken off the sheets and tormented the dog. Yes, I locked Beans in the room with her one day. Oops.
Feeling so down on myself I reached out to a friend who has two girls to see what she has done to cope with these issues. I felt so much better about my feelings. She told me that she had the some feelings, and most mom's do. She gave me some ideas on how to handle and fix these problems. Her ideas were that we should just ignore Willow when she gets up. Pretend she is not there, she just wants our attention. Then to do a reward chart. She gets so many stickers for staying in her bed then she get a present. Here is how that is all going. She has yet to earn a sticker, I gave her a free one to see maybe what it was like to put it on the chart. I have the pretty presents waiting for her on the fridge but they don't tempt her in any way. The ignoring her was funny the first night and I seriously thought she was going to outlast us. She will chase the cat around which she knows is a no no. Last night Tim found her and the poor cat locked in my closest. She was chasing him around the shelving unit in the middle of the room; remember my closet is the size of a bed room. She will put on Charlee's clothes. One day it was a newborn onesie, last night was a 6 month onesie.
I guess this is something we have to keep working on and don't give up. Russ and Cassie's advice have never steered us wrong in the past in dealing with children. Some days I just want to duct tape her to the bed but I know that would be totally wrong.
Now the part that makes this little beast a princess is that when we say the prayer before we eat she belts out "MEN" when I am finished. Not sure why she doesn't get the "a" in front but oh well. When it is time for bed she has to give us all a kiss even the dogs. Ah how sweet is that, poor dogs though. She just wants to love them and doesn't know when to stop. I think, no I know, they get annoyed with her.
The potty training is going and that is just what it is. She will go when we sit her on there but she will not tell us when she has to go. I will leave her in her panties for nap and she will not make a mess so that is good. So not ready to do that at night, her diaper is SOAKED in the morning. She did surprisingly well and went poo in the toilet. We'll see if that happens again.
We have stopped the swim lessons for awhile until she does two things. One is that she is fully potty trained. She has pooped 2 times in the pool. She has a swim diaper on but certainly does not contain poo. Tim has had the pleasure of having that embarrassment. The other thing is she needs to listen a little better. I guess she will not listen to what is going on and follow instructions. I had to go and cancel the lessons and they needed 30 day notice. I did it on a Tuesday and when Tim went to class on the following Saturday they already took her off the roster. The instructor said they went ahead and did us a favor. Sounds like they did themselves a favor by getting the pooping pool bomber out of there.
Yes, this whole post was about the princess beast.